what will they say if i lose weight?!?

okay i am overweight and do not look pretty and slim as i used to my relatives in my family take the piss out of me behind my back, although they are fat themselves, they say stuff like look how big her bum is. once i saw my aunt when i was on the train standing in front of me talking to her husband saying look how big her bum is and thighs i weigh 12 stones. i used 2 be 9 no i am not fat fat! but ya i am overweight and a little fat. although my uncle and aunt are both fat themselves.?? they ask me like what trouser size fits you etc. my size is 14 – 16 (uk size) i have had enough one of my uncle is slim inc his wife and they do not eat meat.and their baby girl is kind of slim for her age all i said was is try giving her egg fish and a little meat. as its good for growing kids and he turned around and said we don’t want her to get fat like you when she grows up. although his sister is fat in india??!! hello. they ask me questions like what make up do you use do you wax your rams it is really annoying. i am now losing weight i wonder what they will think of me when i lose weight. i am also getting laser eye surgery soon and going for a new look. lets see what they will say??! and does eating meat make you fat. one of my other aunty’s say that rem when your uncle said we don’t want our baby to be fat like you, Hello i wasn’t fat at any gae i only turned fat when i was about 19. how can i help myself feel better and not get upset and worked up by people comments and criticism.

Serious help needed about green card status?

I am a US green card holder for 2 decades. Ever since I got the green card, I never managed to secure a job in US as I was too highly educated and I did not want to work for $7 per hour. Upto 2005, my brother supported me with food and accommodation. He fed me for 15 years and still wants to look after me food/accommodation wise. But he makes $40K per annum and pays mortgage and fees for daughter at University. As a result he lives on bread and water but fed me better.It is 2010 now and I have not been able to go back to US due to lack of funds (to get food stamps in US I have to have paid 40 quarters of taxes but I have never worked and never filed taxes. I did do 15 years of unpaid voluntary work to help five needy/disabled neighbours. In UK I get state benefits so I have no bills for my food or accommodation or medicines (I am seriously diabetic). I had a friend who overstayed out of US for 2.5 years but me managed to get into US via Toronto, canada because often if you flash your green card, they just let you pass. Another person I read about, he was out of US for 3 years but he said I only left 10 weeks ago and immigration officer let him in. This is because when you leave US, there is no immigration so if a green card holder leave USA, they do not know when you left (compared to tourist visa when they attach a slip in your passport which airline check in people remove so they know when you left the country). Yet another person I read about as follows. This person left US to go to France to attend a wedding. 10 days later when he was returning, he found out that he left his green card in a relatives home who is not contactable. There was no time to wait so he decided to enter US under visa waiver having electronically registered the same in US embassy at Paris. Then he came back to France within the time it said on the sticker stuck to his passport. He then collected his green card and entered US with his green card and there was no problem.

There are three scenarios above and I need to ask which I can get away with. This is the last time I will leave US, You guys will think I should not be allowed to enter US as I had no intyention of staying there. Not true. I could not stay due to lack of funds and was ill with diabetis and could nto pay doctor and even a dentist. I am now in touch with a person who says he will give me below minimum wage for 18 hours work per day for at least 15 months.

I do need to enter US and I am at my wits end. Please advise as I do not want to lose the green card. I wish I had done a few hours a week job when I was there upto 2005 or even applied for citizenship and then I could have been out of US even for decades.

Help from legally qua;ified people greatly appreciated.

PS: Does US now keep records for departure from USA (for green card holders) and how about me entering US via Toronto or may be under visa waiver and then return to UK within the expiry period and then enter US again but with green card.

I-130, Petition for Alien Relative from London?

I am a US citizen living with my husband in UK. I applied for his immigration visa in November 2010 using I-130 petition and sent to US embassy in London on address given on their website which is:
USCIS Field Office
American Embassy (DHS/USCIS)
Post Office Box 2444
London W1A 5WT
Till today they have not even deducted the payment from credit card and we are really worried if they have lost our documents somewhere. I have sent several emails to scslondon@state.gov asking if they have received my documents however every time i get a standard response saying call this number 09042-450-100 and i could not speak to anyone on this number, it looks like it’s just an IVR and answer to my question is not available on IVR.
Please help me, shall i reapply if yes then on which address or do i need to wait more.

Does the following economic plan look good?

1. Tax Reform

* Eliminate Taxes on Dividends and Savings. The basis of capitalism is savings, and Americans who do so should be rewarded.
o Pass HJ Res. 23 to encourage savings over consumption.

* Repeal the Death Tax. Attacking small businesses and breaking up family farms smothers growth and kills jobs.
o Pass H.R. 2734 to make the Bush tax cuts permanent.

* Cut Taxes for Working Seniors. Grandmothers and grandfathers working to make ends meet should keep all the fruits of their labor.
o Pass H.R. 191 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to repeal the inclusion in gross income of Social Security benefits.

* Eliminate Taxes on Social Security Benefits. That money belongs to seniors, not the government. They paid into the system for a lifetime, and they should be free to spend every penny as they see fit.
o Pass H.R. 192 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to repeal the 1993 increase in taxes on Social Security benefits.

* Accelerate Depreciation on Investment. We need to help companies grow and create jobs.
o Pass H.R. 4995 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to reduce corporate marginal income tax rates.

* Eliminate Taxes on Capital Gains. Investment should be embraced and rewarded.
o Pass H.J. Res 23 (The “Liberty Amendment”), proposing an amendment to the Constitution of the United States relative to abolishing personal income, estate, and gift taxes and prohibiting the United States Government from engaging in business in competition with its citizens.

* Eliminate Taxes on Tips.The single parents and working students who earn their income chiefly through tips deserve to keep all of their money. This tax on “estimated income” is unfair and should be ended.
o Pass H.R. 3664 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to provide that tips shall not be subject to income or employment taxes.

* Support the Mortgage Cancellation Relief Act. Working families who lost their homes should not be punished a second time with a big IRS bill.
o Pass H.R. 1876 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to exclude from the gross income of individual taxpayers discharges of indebtedness attributable to certain forgiven residential mortgage obligations.

2. Spending Reform

* Reduce Overseas Military Commitments. Our bases and troops should be on our soil.
o It’s time to stop subsidizing our trading partners in Europe, Japan and South Korea.

* Freeze Non-Defense, Non-Entitlement Spending at Current Levels
o I vote against all bloated, pork laden spending bills and will veto them as president.

3. Monetary Policy Reform

* Televise Federal Open Market Committee Meetings. An institution as powerful as the Federal Reserve deserves full public scrutiny.

* Expand Transparency and Accountability at the Federal Reserve
o Pass H.R. 2754 to require the Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve System to continue to make available to the public on a weekly basis information on the measure of the M3 monetary aggregate and its components.

* Return Value to Our Money. Legalize gold and silver as a competing currency.
o Level the long-term boom and bust business cycle by passing H.R. 4683, which would repeal provisions of the federal criminal code relating to issuing coins of gold, silver, or other metal for use as current money and making or possessing likenesses of such coins.

4. Regulatory Reform

* Repeal Sarbanes/Oxley. It has seriously wounded our capital markets and helped make the UK a financial center at our expense.
o Ending these misguided regulations would bring jobs flooding back to the United States
o Pass H.R. 1049 to reform Sarbanes-Oxley and reduce the burden it places on small businesses.

* Repeal or Remove Costly and Unnecessary Federal Regulations. Neighbors know best how to help their neighbors.
o We need to make it easier for community banks, credit unions, and other financial institutions to better serve their communities and to help people in these communities get access to credit and capital.
o Pass H.R. 1869 to enhance the ability of community banks to foster economic growth and serve their communities, boost small businesses, increase individual savings, and for other purposes.

What do you think of this from the Arsenal chief executive Ivan Gazidaz?

The Arsenal chief executive has said the funds are available for Arsene Wenger to spend it on a/some “world class” players

He also said that Arsenal are defiently not finished in this transfer market and there will still be some activity.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/2011/jul/18/arsene-wenger-arsenal-transfer-budget

Ivan Gazidis says Arsène Wenger has a “substantial” transfer budget and there is no practical or ideological barrier to him spending plenty of it on a single “world-class” player.

The Arsenal chief executive offered a measured yet robust endorsement of the club’s self-sustaining business vision, maintaining they must consider the “efficiency of spend” and that they had to do things differently to the very biggest spenders because “we don’t have those kind of resources”.

But, in the face of supporter frustrations at the relative lack of in-coming deals thus far, Gazidis made it plain that Wenger had identified the squad’s shortcomings and he would be backed in the quest to address them. The manager has already signed the striker Gervinho and the young right-back Carl Jenkinson for a combined £11.6m while Gaël Clichy has moved to Manchester City for £7m.

“We still will be active in this window,” Gazidis said. “We haven’t finished our business at all. We’re just not conducting it publicly. We’re working hard privately. We understand where the weaknesses have been.

“Financially, we’re in a strong position. We have resources to spend. We’re certainly not sitting there saying ‘Let’s hold back on our resources for some reason.’ Why would we? The resources are there.

“They’re not there to compete with the Manchester Citys of this world and, frankly, if they were, Manchester City would just increase their bids again. You’re just never going to be able to compete with limitless amounts of money but we’ve got a substantial amount of money that we can invest.”

Gazidis is aware that a section of the support crave a big-money statement signing and he said that Wenger, despite his reputation for preferring diamonds in the rough, was not opposed to making such a purchase.

“If we found an established, world-class player and we thought the economics made sense and he would add to what we could do on the pitch, then there’s no philosophical objection to that,” Gazidis said. “Arsène has no point of principle to show the world that he can build his own team of young players. That’s just not the way it is.

“Our fans have the right to be excited, to look forward to the season with anticipation and to expect to see top-class players and exciting things happening on the pitch. It’s our goal and target to deliver all of that.”

Gazidis believes Wenger’s style and vision is so pure and his ambition so great that when the team falls short, the disappointment is magnified. Yet he argued, as Wenger has done, that it was important to have some perspective.

“The reality is that most fans love this club and think what we’re trying to do is fantastic,” Gazidis said. “It’s easy to lose perspective on what Arsène is trying to do … which I think is an extraordinary vision … but if you look around, the fans we have around the world … that vision is very, very attractive and very, very powerful. We should be proud of that.

“People should want that in the game. It’s a fantastic thing for the game, I really believe that. It is one of the points of difference for Arsenal and something that drives admiration around the world.

“Listen, we have to deal with some realities in the game. Domestically, the league has been dominated by Chelsea and Manchester United in recent years. They’ve been the biggest spenders and, although they’ve done a fantastic job, it’s probably not a coincidence and now you see Manchester City and what they are spending and they are going to be in that bracket as well.

“We have to challenge for trophies in that environment and we will. But we’ve got to do things differently because we don’t have those kind of resources. Our approach is partly driven by vision; it’s partly driven by necessary strategy.”

Arsenal and non Arsenal fans, without the usual nonsense response that these questions usually get, what do you make of what Ivan Gazidas has said?