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Lisa asks…
Why do people fall for the Nigeria scam?
I don’t understand how people fall for the Nigeria scam. Haven’t you heard? “If it’s too good to be True; just maybe it’s is! It’s all lies and you are being scammed. You never give out your personal information and you never reply to the Nigeria government because they aren’t giving Millions away. Would you ever fall for this scam? The Red flags are: NEVER give out your banking information; Do you have a long lost relative in Nigeria? Probably NOT! Anytime you need to give out money out of your pocket you JUST might be getting scammed! Don’t fall for those tricks. How do they even get our email? Even if the email looks personal; delete it! What do you think about this scam? Why do you think it’s still going on today? Why are so many people falling for this scam?
Stephen Clinton answers:
Everyone wants to get rich quick, the ones that fall for it are those that who are naive of the fact that it could be a scam and focus on the idea behind it, becoming rich.
Michael asks…
What Is the reason behind people Jealousy…………!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Why Some people get jealous of each other ……..like they are the centre of the universe while there are much more important people on earth …………
90% Of people i met in my life are jealous of me & like to bring me down nevertheless I find my self a very normal person just like every one else ………Nothing to be jealous off ….
a small example few weeks ago i post a photo for my self on some of the internet profile & a friend commented ……ohh it looks like you lost weight ….( how did you manage to dress like this your outfit doesnt go together …?
Note for the last 10 years i have the same weight i never lost or gained weight ….what kind of comment is that ?not like i was fat & i lost weight or whatever ……
I didnt reply …1 day after she posted the same photo same pose same CLOTHES…!!!!!!wtf…
If i have a specific hair style they will tell me ohhh it doesnt suit you it looks whatever …
after i know for sure from my hair dresser they go & ask him to do the SAME HAIR DO LIKE MINE OR HAIR CUT ETC …..if they dont like it why they want the same ………….!!!!or doesnt hurt so much to say a nice compliment …
i’m not talking about 1 or 2 friends i m talking like 20 or more …..act the same way ….
Most of those people have nice families & nice life still all they do is just comparing them selves & say bad things behind my back still pretending to be my friends ?
why they just cant be happy for each other …….
why people cant be honest with ONE FACE ?
For example : if a friend asked what are your plans for new year
& i said im traveling for vacation on new year she why she would feel so jealous ?
I know this for fact because other friend tells me how they pretend to like me but they just like to know whats going on with my life ……………..!!!!im not angelina julie ….
i mean there is a lot of people in the world who are much more important than a normal person
My question is shouldn’t they feel jealous of an important person instead like celebrities or top models what about them ?
for sure they get most of life so instead of getting jealous of relatives /friends etc ……we are just normal people …………..what is the reason behind this jealousy psychology ?
Thank u in advance ..
Stephen Clinton answers:
It seems as if they feel you look much better than they do. I know females are that way, so they tend to try and make you feel bad but at the same time copy what you do as to try and look as great as you are. I would just ignore their bad comments, for what they are really saying is that they like the way you look or what you do, as they want to be like you. As friends that talk about you behind your back, is really a false friend and you cannot trust them. As I would not call these types a friend, for you cannot trust them. You do need to find some real friends that you can trust and be able to share things with, as a real friend will not ever try and put you down and will not talk to people behind your back. But do not let what these fake friends say bother you, for they do this just because they are jealous of you. When they say something bad about you just smile and say, it bothers them not me. As they may then stop saying such things, for they will see that it will not bother you.
You know I have never been able to understand why females feel as if they do not look as good as another, but they feel they should. For looks is not all a guy looks for. Looks are just a part of what they look for in a female. As most normal guys that are not just looking for sex will look for other details as well. As to spend their life with, as yes they also want the females to have good looks but that is not the main thing they look for. For they are looking for a female to spend their life with and to do so will have to be more involved than just looks. So I just cannot come to understand why females are so worked up only about their looks.
George asks…
How to build trust with people again after you have been betrayed so many times ?
I have experienced one of the most betrayals in my entire lifeIf you know how the mechanics of the theory of six degrees of separation works you will understand.
I have a distant cousin,a female, who lives on the other side of the planet and she has a girlfriend who lives in the country where I live
However she had been badmouthing me with her saying that I am mean ,homophobic , have aids ,I am not to be trusted etc etc and the thing is that I bearly know her.Anyway her girlfriend,whom I have never met , both know the same type of people from various backgrounds
through my mothers girlfriends son and his girlfriend ,yes my own parent is involved in the drama too.
My cousin has known who I have dated ,socialised with, travelled to and even worked and any gossip she gets from her friend she tells my extended family given them the impression that I am living a reckless life, for example , we all have gay friends who we socialise she found out that I had been to a few gay clubs and told them I am gay,which I am not, she even got me fired from a job embarrasingly by saying that I would abuse gay/lesbian there because of my homophobia- I have lost everything because of her tongue ,money ,job,social network – I have not confronted her because she lies and manipulates an my ma has said a word to me either.This has afffected me greatly as I feel isolated in my neighbourhood since all my so called friends have disowned me as it took years for the rumours to spread
As I love women I do not want to become bitter and twisted towards them but I cant help thinking that the closest to you can screw you up. How can I build up trust again in people I am so weary but I used to be a gregarious person.
I am a good looking and intelligent man and people do warm to me very soon on a first meeting , even the same sex I may hasten to add ,which she has heard about ;I wonder if she could be jealous as she has been sending me emails that are somewhat offensive- shes such a b@@@tch
I am so hurt by this behaviour that things will never be the same again
when I see her and my extended relatives.
Please advise me
Stephen Clinton answers:
As a man i’ll expect you to keep ur head straight and high as long as u know what u want out of life and set ur heart to achieve it. Ur parents, friends and extended relations don’t make u or break u. They only do so at ur consent. Get focused and live ur life to please urself and ur creator. The gays and prostitutes are human and need friends like u and i to keep them going or set them on the straight part. God himself never discriminated his creature, so non of his creation is given the right or authority to do so.
Sandy asks…
How do you cope with the hostility from others who preferred the fatter you?
I gained weight during my college years, and then went on a yo yo dieting spree for many years (from 19 to 26). Sometimes I’d be thin, other times I’d be anywhere from 20 to 60 lbs overweight. Something clicked last year and I’ve FINALLY been able to maintain my weight loss.
I’ve been at a reasonable weight for almost a year now. The only problem is, the people who I thought cared about me seem to have turned on me. My mom flat out told me that she doesn’t like skinny people (I’m nowhere near skinny by the way). Other relatives joke about me looking like a crackhead (I am 130 lbs, 5’2, so thats BS). Friends of mine who started the diet with me but didn’t quite make it are avoiding me. On top of all that, I had to let go of a romantic interest I had held onto for SO long.
It’s a hurtful situation but I wouldn’t trade this feeling for anything in the world. At the same time, I stll have 10 more lbs to go and all this negativity coming from others has made me lose a lot of motivaton.
Stephen Clinton answers:
Trust me on this one! They are all just jealous. One of my best friends made a crack about how I couldn’t wear a smaller skirt because my belly would hang over it. This from someone who thinks that if she works out once in a blue moon that she’s working hard. I was extremely skinny when I was growing up and into my 20s. I got my boobs done when I was 32 to feel better about myself. The problem was, my weight started creeping on. I had surgery and shot up to 145 (I’m 5’7″). I had weighed 135 beforehand. I have since dropped from 145 to 124. I feel better about myself than I have in a LONG time. Unfortunately, I just had gallbladder surgery and a right tubal ligation done two weeks ago and I’m slowly getting my butt back in gear but now I have some more lovely scars to look at. (lol) My other best friend is my biggest cheerleader. She tells me how great she thinks I look while my other friend just has to be nasty. My family is a little nasty about too. My family wants me to hang it up because I’m too old to try to get in shape. (I’m 37.) I just try to ignore them and go on with my life. Try not to let them get you down. Good luck and take care.
Nancy asks…
Why do people feel the need to say to strangers “cheer up”?
I was at work (behind a counter in a cinema) and it was a quiet period. I was standing in a dream staring into space. This customer walked in and instead of saying ‘hello’ said “alright, cheer up”. I did not know him, I had never spoken to him before so why on Earth did he think he had the right to tell me how to feel? Now, I wasnt upset about anything (maybe a little bored) so obviously my normal face must look miserable. But for all he knew I could have just lost a close relative, a pet or broken up with my b/f! He seemed the type of guy whos crazy, wacky, everyone thinks he’s SO FUNNY! so because of that I have to stand with a great big smile on my face at all times? I just think its the height of cheek to say that sort of thing to someone you dont know.
Anyone else hate it?
Anyone ever said it to someone and why did you think you had the right to say it?
Stephen Clinton answers:
Yes, I hate it. For me it’s normally “cheer up it may never happen” which I assume means that I have a worried look on my face. It’s bad enough when someone you know says it but a stranger or passing acquaintance. I guess they think they are being funny or trying to start a conversation or something. I just give them a filthy look and that soon puts a stop to it!
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