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Charles asks…
my life is so lonely. looking for a life changing, motivational book?
its been a little bit of a crazy year for me this year.. ive begun my first year in college for one, away from a family which i never really have been able to fit into in the first place. i dont really have any relatives, its just me, my 2 siblings, and my mom, and quite frankly, they are all alike and i totally dont click with them, so leaving college was hard, but not really that bad for someone who never really had anyone to lean on in the first place. i also for the first time actually started to make friends for the first time this year. back at school, i have always been a bit too mature for my own age, so throughout high school, it was like i was quiet and very restrained, and no one really wanted to be my friend or let me into their lives because i was new and all cliques had been formed by high school years. it was like, the teachers understood me more than the other students, and i always found myself growing to really get to know and respect my teachers because i could talk to them and they would get me. so i kind of went through high school as a loner, but never really had much of a problem with it. i enjoyed just being me and for some reason never had a problem being just independent and left alone. but a major 360 this year, where i really started to make a group of friends, which actually strangely happened to be all guys, but still, i found that they are not always the genuine friends that care so much and would do anything in the world for me. so as far as my life has gone, i have yet to really understand friendship, because i would do anything for a friend, and a great listener and an amazing shoulder to be there for someone, yet no one has ever really been there for me. and my love life, which has been the absolute death of me. without being cocky, i am an extremely beautiful girl, breathtaking, but not the hott, sexy girl that the college guys are looking for a random hookup with. i am totally the relationship type of girl, and i get the attention, but not the right kind. and the guy i completely fell in love with, my good friend, used me to hook up with me, and then told me he cant do this, it would never work out, cause theres this girl at home he likes.
so in other words, i feel like my whole life people have always screwed me over. i never have had anyone to rely on, and as far as i have seen, many good deeds do go unnoticed, true love does not exist, and not everyone does discover real friendship.
i am looking for a book that will help me gain some strength in my life and help me discover true happiness. i dont have too much time to read, so i really want to make sue that this is a good one. i need something that will change my life, ya know? could anyone help me out here? i feel a bit like a lost soul…
Stephen Clinton answers:
I’m sorry to hear about how you feel. I used to feel left out at school but then i read the Obernewtyn Chroncicles by Isobelle Carmody. They are really good! It is about people who have powerful mind powers but if someone found out about their powers they would be burnt on a stake in front of many people. They are known as Misfits. These stories changed my life. Isobelle writes so well, every person who reads these series will feel addicted to them! Even my dad has read them and loved them! The books are:
Obernewtyn (book1)
The Farseekers (book2)
Ashling (book3)
The Keeping Place (book4)
Tthe Stone Key (book5)
The Sending (Forthcoming sometime this year, book6)
I hope they fill your world with happiness and love like they did for me 
go to: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obernewtyn_Chronicles If you wanty to find out more about these books.
Sandy asks…
I spent 9 years of my life helping 4 very different people. Now what?
What if its your feeling to help someone who cant help themselves? Should you care? Should you sacrifice all you have gained to help someone in thier life? What if the answer is yes, but you just cant do it anymore? What if the answer is yes and it hurts more people but changes the life of one? If the answer is no, how do you live with yourself knowing that you could have helped that person, but you said no?
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I have helped people who has lost hope in life. Thinking their will live and die alone. I helpep them bring that hope back in their lives. I have given them the taste of how wonderful life is. One by one, I have seen them come and go. Helping them stand up and walk with a chin up. Then I see another and let go of the previous. Feelings were complicated, hurt and loathe. Now I see myself, in the mirror. Thinking however much I help, there are more coming… When will I be able to make a difference in the world. I feel I am not doing enough… Neglecting myself and my life.. to make the life of other better… and for what cause? I have the 5th person currently and I realised it wont make a difference. I seen a drug addict, an innocent person being hated by all she loved, a woman who has seen deaths of those very close to her, a single child being played and used by the world, and now a person who is left in a country of to which she knows no english and relative and was raped. I’ve los
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……..I’ve lost all hope of helping… but sometimes I see people with problems, and instantly I know what will hapen to them…then I would just walk pass by them, with this feeling of guilt and hate… because they do not want to help me help them (if it makes sense).. I dont know if what I am doing is even worth it. What change will it possible give to the world and how people will help themselves?!
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I see other people so happy with thier lives and when I look right, i see a whole lot of diferent people. I know thats the way its life and all that. But I want to be one of those who are happyly walking around with no worries (even if there is some, but not as much as i have). Honestly, I dont know what I am trying to ask here… Is it mean for me not to help them anymore? Is it wrong for me to let them go once i’ve helped them, even if they beg me not to leave? Is it right for me to start caring for my ownself and stop caring what other peoples problems are?
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Stephen Clinton answers:
Been there.. And I don’t know where you are spiritually obviously, so this quote may not mean much to you — but it doesn’t hurt anything for me to throw it out there for you, as it may help. From Oswald Chambers:
“If you are devoted to the cause of humanity,
you will soon be exhausted and have your heart broken by ingratitude,
but if the mainspring of your service is love for Jesus,
you can serve men although they treat you as a door-mat.
Never look for justice in this world,
but never cease to give it.”
Richard asks…
Is there a website that shows photos of high school grads.?
I was looking for my little sister that got adopted over 20 yrs. ago. I recieved info on someone that fits her profile from people who call themselfs search angels. They help familys search for adopted or lost relatives.They helped me find my brother.Even though we haven’t reunited yet,cause he is in Iraq at this time.We have swapt pictures and talked.I belive the person that they say, is my sister .I have wrote to this person, although i haven’t had a response back.I am not sure it’s really her.She might not be ready to know us yet.She was only a 2 months old when she was taken.So she doesn’t know us at all.I told her in the letter that if she isn’t this person let me know or if she is this person and she isn’t ready yet that i will respect her choice.I just want to know if she is the sister i have been searching for.So that way if its her i know to stop searching.Or if its not her i can keep searching.I haven’t heard nothing from her, but if i see her picture i can tell .
Stephen Clinton answers:
Classmates.com but she have to register with the site though
Steven asks…
What are good ideas for a Christmas list for a 14 year old boy?
All of my relatives keep bugging me for ideas for Christmas. I know I am getting a new bike from my dad, but i need other ideas other than money. i am into many sports and some video games. i am open to any suggestions people have though. please help!!! thanks!
i am asking for a new ipod touch because i lost mine at an amusement park. and i have an xbox and kinect (looking for some games for those)
Stephen Clinton answers:
Wander through a few stores and write down anything that catches your eye that you would buy for yourself on any ordinary day. Don’t worry about writing down too much – it’s better to end up with a long list that can be narrowed down than a short list that leaves gift-givers with little to choose from. Plus, the longer your list, the easier it is for them to tell if you’ll like something they found that wasn’t on the list. 
Michael asks…
im silent nd people r judging me as arrogant but im not!!!?
well the basic problem im facing is…. im very very silent i wont speakup wid people nd all d relatives feels like im very arrogant… i smile very less usually got a serious face… nd even my frnds feels d same way even though i help dem venever dey get into trouble dey feel lyk im arrogant due to my looks nd silence…. i met a girl nd she became my gf nd she also complained dat i dont love her coz im silent…. i ran for her 1000kms jus to look at her face nd if im silent she says dat i dont love her nymore!!!!! i cant lead in dis way!! bcoz of my silence im losing out my frnds relatives and gf…. im very helpful to my frnds nd relatives dey always count on me when ever they want any need nd coz of my serious face nd silence dey tell me im arrogant dont knw how to deal wid this problem!!! can you please gimme suggestions and answers to overcome this?
Stephen Clinton answers:
Interesting.
From what I’ve gathered, you’re quite compassionate about this girl of yours, but my main focus here is the need to find out why you’re so silent.
I fully understand that shyness exists and is perfectly okay, but to always be silent? Not the best move. Is this something that is bottling your emotions and not allowing you to express the true you? If look deep inside yourself and find that being silent is who you are, you need to roll with that, and you will be accepted for you. But what you should not do, is be rude about it. What I mean by that is, when someone asks you a question, simply answer it, it doesn’t have to be an essay, just give your opinion and end it, you don’t have to be the life of the party, but just talking a little is needed.
Also try to be in a good mood. I’m sensing that something is bringing you down and not making you want to be happy. You also need to smile, I know it sounds stupid, but just smiling for the sake of smiling makes you feel a lot better about everything.
I hope this helped you in some way.
*Edit* I’ll rephrase this bringing you down part. I’m meaning something other than this issue
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