Serious help needed about green card status?

I am a US green card holder for 2 decades. Ever since I got the green card, I never managed to secure a job in US as I was too highly educated and I did not want to work for $7 per hour. Upto 2005, my brother supported me with food and accommodation. He fed me for 15 years and still wants to look after me food/accommodation wise. But he makes $40K per annum and pays mortgage and fees for daughter at University. As a result he lives on bread and water but fed me better.It is 2010 now and I have not been able to go back to US due to lack of funds (to get food stamps in US I have to have paid 40 quarters of taxes but I have never worked and never filed taxes. I did do 15 years of unpaid voluntary work to help five needy/disabled neighbours. In UK I get state benefits so I have no bills for my food or accommodation or medicines (I am seriously diabetic). I had a friend who overstayed out of US for 2.5 years but me managed to get into US via Toronto, canada because often if you flash your green card, they just let you pass. Another person I read about, he was out of US for 3 years but he said I only left 10 weeks ago and immigration officer let him in. This is because when you leave US, there is no immigration so if a green card holder leave USA, they do not know when you left (compared to tourist visa when they attach a slip in your passport which airline check in people remove so they know when you left the country). Yet another person I read about as follows. This person left US to go to France to attend a wedding. 10 days later when he was returning, he found out that he left his green card in a relatives home who is not contactable. There was no time to wait so he decided to enter US under visa waiver having electronically registered the same in US embassy at Paris. Then he came back to France within the time it said on the sticker stuck to his passport. He then collected his green card and entered US with his green card and there was no problem.

There are three scenarios above and I need to ask which I can get away with. This is the last time I will leave US, You guys will think I should not be allowed to enter US as I had no intyention of staying there. Not true. I could not stay due to lack of funds and was ill with diabetis and could nto pay doctor and even a dentist. I am now in touch with a person who says he will give me below minimum wage for 18 hours work per day for at least 15 months.

I do need to enter US and I am at my wits end. Please advise as I do not want to lose the green card. I wish I had done a few hours a week job when I was there upto 2005 or even applied for citizenship and then I could have been out of US even for decades.

Help from legally qua;ified people greatly appreciated.

PS: Does US now keep records for departure from USA (for green card holders) and how about me entering US via Toronto or may be under visa waiver and then return to UK within the expiry period and then enter US again but with green card.

I-130, Petition for Alien Relative from London?

I am a US citizen living with my husband in UK. I applied for his immigration visa in November 2010 using I-130 petition and sent to US embassy in London on address given on their website which is:
USCIS Field Office
American Embassy (DHS/USCIS)
Post Office Box 2444
London W1A 5WT
Till today they have not even deducted the payment from credit card and we are really worried if they have lost our documents somewhere. I have sent several emails to scslondon@state.gov asking if they have received my documents however every time i get a standard response saying call this number 09042-450-100 and i could not speak to anyone on this number, it looks like it’s just an IVR and answer to my question is not available on IVR.
Please help me, shall i reapply if yes then on which address or do i need to wait more.

Does the following economic plan look good?

1. Tax Reform

* Eliminate Taxes on Dividends and Savings. The basis of capitalism is savings, and Americans who do so should be rewarded.
o Pass HJ Res. 23 to encourage savings over consumption.

* Repeal the Death Tax. Attacking small businesses and breaking up family farms smothers growth and kills jobs.
o Pass H.R. 2734 to make the Bush tax cuts permanent.

* Cut Taxes for Working Seniors. Grandmothers and grandfathers working to make ends meet should keep all the fruits of their labor.
o Pass H.R. 191 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to repeal the inclusion in gross income of Social Security benefits.

* Eliminate Taxes on Social Security Benefits. That money belongs to seniors, not the government. They paid into the system for a lifetime, and they should be free to spend every penny as they see fit.
o Pass H.R. 192 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to repeal the 1993 increase in taxes on Social Security benefits.

* Accelerate Depreciation on Investment. We need to help companies grow and create jobs.
o Pass H.R. 4995 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to reduce corporate marginal income tax rates.

* Eliminate Taxes on Capital Gains. Investment should be embraced and rewarded.
o Pass H.J. Res 23 (The “Liberty Amendment”), proposing an amendment to the Constitution of the United States relative to abolishing personal income, estate, and gift taxes and prohibiting the United States Government from engaging in business in competition with its citizens.

* Eliminate Taxes on Tips.The single parents and working students who earn their income chiefly through tips deserve to keep all of their money. This tax on “estimated income” is unfair and should be ended.
o Pass H.R. 3664 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to provide that tips shall not be subject to income or employment taxes.

* Support the Mortgage Cancellation Relief Act. Working families who lost their homes should not be punished a second time with a big IRS bill.
o Pass H.R. 1876 to amend the Internal Revenue Code of 1986 to exclude from the gross income of individual taxpayers discharges of indebtedness attributable to certain forgiven residential mortgage obligations.

2. Spending Reform

* Reduce Overseas Military Commitments. Our bases and troops should be on our soil.
o It’s time to stop subsidizing our trading partners in Europe, Japan and South Korea.

* Freeze Non-Defense, Non-Entitlement Spending at Current Levels
o I vote against all bloated, pork laden spending bills and will veto them as president.

3. Monetary Policy Reform

* Televise Federal Open Market Committee Meetings. An institution as powerful as the Federal Reserve deserves full public scrutiny.

* Expand Transparency and Accountability at the Federal Reserve
o Pass H.R. 2754 to require the Board of Governors of the Federal Reserve System to continue to make available to the public on a weekly basis information on the measure of the M3 monetary aggregate and its components.

* Return Value to Our Money. Legalize gold and silver as a competing currency.
o Level the long-term boom and bust business cycle by passing H.R. 4683, which would repeal provisions of the federal criminal code relating to issuing coins of gold, silver, or other metal for use as current money and making or possessing likenesses of such coins.

4. Regulatory Reform

* Repeal Sarbanes/Oxley. It has seriously wounded our capital markets and helped make the UK a financial center at our expense.
o Ending these misguided regulations would bring jobs flooding back to the United States
o Pass H.R. 1049 to reform Sarbanes-Oxley and reduce the burden it places on small businesses.

* Repeal or Remove Costly and Unnecessary Federal Regulations. Neighbors know best how to help their neighbors.
o We need to make it easier for community banks, credit unions, and other financial institutions to better serve their communities and to help people in these communities get access to credit and capital.
o Pass H.R. 1869 to enhance the ability of community banks to foster economic growth and serve their communities, boost small businesses, increase individual savings, and for other purposes.

What do you think of this from the Arsenal chief executive Ivan Gazidaz?

The Arsenal chief executive has said the funds are available for Arsene Wenger to spend it on a/some “world class” players

He also said that Arsenal are defiently not finished in this transfer market and there will still be some activity.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/football/2011/jul/18/arsene-wenger-arsenal-transfer-budget

Ivan Gazidis says Arsène Wenger has a “substantial” transfer budget and there is no practical or ideological barrier to him spending plenty of it on a single “world-class” player.

The Arsenal chief executive offered a measured yet robust endorsement of the club’s self-sustaining business vision, maintaining they must consider the “efficiency of spend” and that they had to do things differently to the very biggest spenders because “we don’t have those kind of resources”.

But, in the face of supporter frustrations at the relative lack of in-coming deals thus far, Gazidis made it plain that Wenger had identified the squad’s shortcomings and he would be backed in the quest to address them. The manager has already signed the striker Gervinho and the young right-back Carl Jenkinson for a combined £11.6m while Gaël Clichy has moved to Manchester City for £7m.

“We still will be active in this window,” Gazidis said. “We haven’t finished our business at all. We’re just not conducting it publicly. We’re working hard privately. We understand where the weaknesses have been.

“Financially, we’re in a strong position. We have resources to spend. We’re certainly not sitting there saying ‘Let’s hold back on our resources for some reason.’ Why would we? The resources are there.

“They’re not there to compete with the Manchester Citys of this world and, frankly, if they were, Manchester City would just increase their bids again. You’re just never going to be able to compete with limitless amounts of money but we’ve got a substantial amount of money that we can invest.”

Gazidis is aware that a section of the support crave a big-money statement signing and he said that Wenger, despite his reputation for preferring diamonds in the rough, was not opposed to making such a purchase.

“If we found an established, world-class player and we thought the economics made sense and he would add to what we could do on the pitch, then there’s no philosophical objection to that,” Gazidis said. “Arsène has no point of principle to show the world that he can build his own team of young players. That’s just not the way it is.

“Our fans have the right to be excited, to look forward to the season with anticipation and to expect to see top-class players and exciting things happening on the pitch. It’s our goal and target to deliver all of that.”

Gazidis believes Wenger’s style and vision is so pure and his ambition so great that when the team falls short, the disappointment is magnified. Yet he argued, as Wenger has done, that it was important to have some perspective.

“The reality is that most fans love this club and think what we’re trying to do is fantastic,” Gazidis said. “It’s easy to lose perspective on what Arsène is trying to do … which I think is an extraordinary vision … but if you look around, the fans we have around the world … that vision is very, very attractive and very, very powerful. We should be proud of that.

“People should want that in the game. It’s a fantastic thing for the game, I really believe that. It is one of the points of difference for Arsenal and something that drives admiration around the world.

“Listen, we have to deal with some realities in the game. Domestically, the league has been dominated by Chelsea and Manchester United in recent years. They’ve been the biggest spenders and, although they’ve done a fantastic job, it’s probably not a coincidence and now you see Manchester City and what they are spending and they are going to be in that bracket as well.

“We have to challenge for trophies in that environment and we will. But we’ve got to do things differently because we don’t have those kind of resources. Our approach is partly driven by vision; it’s partly driven by necessary strategy.”

Arsenal and non Arsenal fans, without the usual nonsense response that these questions usually get, what do you make of what Ivan Gazidas has said?

How can I find a long lost relative?

Looking for 2 people
1-Ryan Jay age 28 was last living in CA, was in the service.
2- Candice, just had a baby this past year or so and was working for a block buster
The mother of these 2 is Nancy maiden name Love
Need more info or have ? email me at tmbear_66@yahoo.com

What is your position for the re imposition of the death penalty in the Philippines?

Vice President Binay is gunning for the re imposition of the death penalty in the spat of 3 persons murdered( shot and burned beyond recognition.) The Philippines death penalty was abolished by GMA in 2006 if I’m not mistaken because she is about to go to the Vatican for a papal blessing at that time. From then on those who are given the death sentence was reduced to life imprisonment. I for one like the vice president Binay should re impose or bring back the death penalty. Not this kind of death penalty which is the lethal injection. To me this is still kinda humane in nature, why not try the 3 brand of death sentence in the US like hanging, the gas chamber and the electrocution. In Malaysia a firing squad, in China one shot over the head. And since the Philippines is subdivided into 3 islands like Luzon, Visayas and Mindanao. Let us impose 3 kinds of death sentence in Luzon it will be hanging, in the Visayas electrocution and in Mindanao which is notorious place it will be the gas chamber. So if you commit a crime in Mindanao and escape in Manila and was caught. You will be asked to be tried in Mindanao and if found guilty will suffer the gas chamber. Of course this is merely a suggestion and knowing the Phillippines has no budget for this sort of things it will just remain a thought. Another yapper asked the same topic which is:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AofuXhOaMWeHBkm5z1sN3dBaDX1G;_ylv=3?qid=20110117062615AAhrUJZ

Here he touch on the religious aspect of things. I do not think religion has anything to do with such implementation of the death penalty. It is the slogan “an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth”. A person killed one of your love ones naturally he or she too deserve to die. Once you took a life, naturally the price you have to pay is also your life. Imagine yourself in the shoes of Mr. Lauro Vizconde and other people who lost their love ones in a very violent way. Iyon na nga lang mamatayan sa aksidente tulad ng bus or jeepney ang isang mahal mo masakit na how much more if one person or group kill your precious family. It is like a twin dagger hitting simultaneously your heart. And the suspects are still walking in your neighborhood.

PRESIDENT NOY is against the death penalty because he reason out that our JUSTICE SYSTEM is a major….major defective at the moment. So if that would be the case then OVERHAUL the entire JUDICIARY in the Philippines. This to me is a lame excuse not to impose the death penalty in this present time. It is like EVIL reigns in the Philippines at the moment and like Binay said “Filipino culture ang pinaguusapan natin dito at dahil sa Filipino dapat meron disiplina”. Tama lang na we should have a iron fist from this time on to impose the law no matter who they are.

I know a lot of Filipinos have different set of views and obviously have a twisted mind. My last question touch on the topic of erecting a monument some even said why not those who married a foreigners etc…ofw ang pinaguusapan na sali ang ibang topic. This is how small some people think on certain matters. This is how if you will notice some questions here in the Philippines section should be addressed to their respective mother or father at home. Some are looking for a long lost relative by posting the name and the telephone no. of that person imagine that. Some couldn’t translate a Tagalog words into English or vice versa. This is our youth of today that will inherit the Philippines? Some ask the weather, the sale of a thing in a mall how to buy this in grocery store etc…this only signifies how weak Filipinos are in terms of knowledge and information. They are asking questions in the wrong places. So what do you think of my question? Thanks.
@WH–I was touch by your answer but when you said you came from “Ange dating Daan” ni bro. Eli Serino, I already thought otherwise. Eli your pastor is a controversial figure in the Philippines. Even your religious sect is one of them. Isn’t he the one who was reported to have sexual liaison among his own parishioners? And when he is on tv he literally spit on the floor and bad mouth other religious personality in the Philippines. I think he was banned from broadcasting from then on. This is what you call a leader? Well its your choice not mine.

@JKoolJ— My intention is not to stand out among the others, neither I considered myself a genius in some sort. I am NOT. I still consider myself a moron. Still grasping for more knowledge. But when I dwell mostly at Philippines section, my longing for knowledge stand still or froze. I give long details for others to know and make their own conclusion. I do not just give question just for the heck of it, I wanna learn from you. Try to go to
@Wuh—and i forgot, i hope those grisly scene of brutal murders wouldn’t happen inside your own family circle. By then maybe you will be among us crying for the return of the CAPITAL punishment.

How many tribulations and how many people persevere with patience?

Look around you, to the right and to the left. Do you not see the afflicted and the unfortunate? In every house there is mourning and upon every cheek run tears.

How many tribulations and how many people persevere with patience? You are not alone in your troubles, which are few …compared to those of others. How many sick people remain bedridden for years while suffering from unspeakable pain?

How many have not seen the light of the sun for years due to their imprisonment, having knowledge of nothing but the four corners of their cell?

How many men and women have lost their dear children in the prime of youth?

How many people are troubled or tormented?

Find consolation with those that are worse off than you; know that this life is like a prison for the believer, an abode of grief and sadness. In the morning castles are bustling with inhabitants; then in an instant, disaster occurs, and they are empty and desolate. Life can be peaceful, the body in good health, wealth abundant, and children healthy; and yet in only a matter of days, poverty, death, separation, and sickness can all take their place.

{And you dwelt in the dwellings of men who wronged themselves, and it was clear to you how We had dealt with them. And We put forth [many] parables for you.} (Qur’an 14. 45)

You must adapt like the experienced camel, which manages, when necessary, to kneel upon a rock. You must also compare your difficulties with the difficulties of those around you, and with those that have come before you: you should realize that you are in good shape relative to them, and that you have merely been pricked by tiny difficulties. So praise Allah for His kindness, be thankful for what He has left for you, seek recompense from Him for what He has taken, and seek consolation with those that are afflicted.

You have a perfect example in the Prophet (bpuh). The entrails of a camel were placed upon his head; his feet bled; his face was fractured; he was besieged in a mountain pass until he was forced to eat tree leaves; he was driven out of Makkah; his front tooth was broken in battle; his innocent wife was accused of wrongdoing; seventy of his Companions were killed; he was bereaved of his son and of most of his daughters; he would tie a stone around his stomach to lessen the pangs of hunger; and he was accused of being a poet, a magician, a soothsayer, a madman, and a liar — all at the same time. Yet Allah protected him throughout these severe trials and tribulations. Prophet Zakariyah (Zacharia) was killed, Prophet Yahya (John) was slaughtered, Prophet Moosa (Moses) was afflicted with great trials, Prophet Ibraheem (Abraham) was thrown in the fire, (may peace be upon them all), and the Imams of righteousness followed them upon this path. ‘Umar was assassinated, as was ‘Uthmaan and ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with them all). Many scholars of the past have been flogged, imprisoned, or tortured.

{Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such [finals] as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty ailments and were shaken.} (Qur’an 2: 214)

Should We Help PPL who Lost thier Jobs?

Lawmakers come back to work Monday facing a tough decision: Whether it’s more important to spend money to keep the economic recovery going or to watch their pennies.

One camp, made up mostly of Democrats, is arguing that Congress must spend to help cash-strapped states and people who are hurting from the downturn.

One camp, made up mostly of Democrats, is arguing that Congress must spend to help cash-strapped states and people who are hurting from the downturn.

Lawmakers don’t have much time to argue. They’ll be in session for a month before leaving for the extended August recess. And when they return after Labor Day, they’ll be wrapped up in the November elections and likely will get little done.

More than 2.1 million people are estimated to have lost their weekly jobless checks because Congress has not extended the deadline to file for federal unemployment insurance.

Lawmakers have been trying to pass a bill that would push the deadline until the end of November. But Senate Republicans have blocked the measure.

The recession killed off 7.9 million jobs. It’s increasingly likely that many will never come back.

The government jobs report shows that businesses have slowed their pace of hiring to a relative trickle. “The job losses during the Great Recession were so off the chart, that even though we’ve gained about 600,000 private sector jobs back, we’ve got nearly 8 million jobs to go,” said Lakshman Achuthan, managing director of Economic Cycle Research Institute.

Excluding temporary Census workers, the economy has added fewer than 100,000 jobs a month this year — a much faster and stronger jobs recovery than occurred following the last two recessions in 2001 and 1991.

But even if that pace of hiring were to double immediately, it would take until 2013 to recapture the lost jobs. And the labor market very likely doesn’t have years before it gets hit with the shock of the inevitable next economic downturn.

One of the big problems is that many of workers who have lost jobs were in industries that are not likely to recover their former strength.

“We’ve got the wrong people in the wrong place with the wrong skills,” said John Silvia, chief economist with Wells Fargo Securities. He said construction workers in California or Florida and auto workers in Michigan will have to relocate and retrain to find new jobs.

“As many as half the people who lost their jobs will have to find something else to do,” said Silvia.

The nation’s working-age population grows by about 150,000 people a month. So the hole is deeper than it looks.

It would take the creation of 10.6 million jobs immediately for the same percentage of the population to be working as was the case three years ago.

So Should we help those who have done nothing wrong and lost thier Job Thats never comming Back?

Or Should we Stop Spending for these ppl?

Can you give me a star plz???

Have people today become too soft in the midst of struggle?

Murder/suicides of people who have recently loss their jobs or suffered some other form of relative trauma seems to be happening more and more recently, and well above anything i’ve heard growing up. Taking out your whole family and then yourself was just not an option for my family, nor anyone else I knew. We all struggled, some lost their jobs but they bit the bullet and made it the best way they could.

What the heck is going on now? Look at these stories – all recent, all involving financial problems:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090129/ap_on_re_us/family_dead;_ylt=AgxSrOdeNpqaSTy.xwCPhZhvzwcF

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090127/ap_on_re_us/bodies_found_2

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090127/ts_alt_afp/uscrimemurder_20090127235247

http://tech.yahoo.com/news/pcworld/20090122/tc_pcworld/formergamesjournalistdeadinapparentmurdersuicide_1

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/cbc/090110/canada/canada_montreal_saguenay_family_13

Have people become so worried about competing with the guy next door, unable to fathom seeking assistance from the government or wherever that they not only kill their innocent children, but themselves?

Your thought?

What goes through the mind of a parent right before they kill their children?

Now that i’ve got your attention..

Murder/suicides of people who have recently loss their jobs or suffered some other form of relative trauma seems to be happening more and more recently, and well above anything i’ve heard growing up. Taking out your whole family and then yourself was just not an option for my family, nor anyone else I knew. We all struggled, some lost their jobs but they bit the bullet and made it the best way they could.

What the heck is going on now? Look at these stories – all recent, all involving financial problems:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090129/ap_on_re_us/family_dead;_ylt=AgxSrOdeNpqaSTy.xwCPhZhvzwcF

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090127/ap_on_re_us/bodies_found_2

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090127/ts_alt_afp/uscrimemurder_20090127235247

http://tech.yahoo.com/news/pcworld/20090122/tc_pcworld/formergamesjournalistdeadinapparentmurdersuicide_1

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/cbc/090110/canada/canada_montreal_saguenay_family_13

Have people become so worried about competing with the guy next door, unable to fathom seeking assistance from the government or wherever that they not only kill their innocent children, but themselves?

Your thought?

What is the rationale behind killing your children, spouse and yourself due to financial problems?

Now that i’ve got your attention..

Murder/suicides of people who have recently loss their jobs or suffered some other form of relative trauma seems to be happening more and more recently, and well above anything i’ve heard growing up. Taking out your whole family and then yourself was just not an option for my family, nor anyone else I knew. We all struggled, some lost their jobs but they bit the bullet and made it the best way they could.

What the heck is going on now? Look at these stories – all recent, all involving financial problems:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090129/ap_on_re_us/family_dead;_ylt=AgxSrOdeNpqaSTy.xwCPhZhvzwcF

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090127/ap_on_re_us/bodies_found_2

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090127/ts_alt_afp/uscrimemurder_20090127235247

http://tech.yahoo.com/news/pcworld/20090122/tc_pcworld/formergamesjournalistdeadinapparentmurdersuicide_1

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/cbc/090110/canada/canada_montreal_saguenay_family_13

Have people become so worried about competing with the guy next door, unable to fathom seeking assistance from the government or wherever that they not only kill their innocent children, but themselves?

Your thought?
I would merely like insight, perhaps your opinions on what people should do in moments of crisis or just whatever.
It just seems that all these stories revolve around financial problems. There is financial assistance available and i’m sure they know it. Most of the people in these stories had very good jobs. I just don’t understand how people just snap like that. I feel like i’m living in a world full of wackos, ready to go postal at any moment…then to kill your own babies…why not leave them to family?

Have adults today become too soft in the midst of struggle?

Murder/suicides of people who have recently loss their jobs or suffered some other form of relative trauma seems to be happening more and more recently, and well above anything i’ve heard growing up. Taking out your whole family and then yourself was just not an option for my family, nor anyone else I knew. We all struggled, some lost their jobs but they bit the bullet and made it the best way they could.

What the heck is going on now? Look at these stories – all recent, all involving financial problems:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090129/ap_on_re_us/family_dead;_ylt=AgxSrOdeNpqaSTy.xwCPhZhvzwcF

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090127/ap_on_re_us/bodies_found_2

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20090127/ts_alt_afp/uscrimemurder_20090127235247

http://tech.yahoo.com/news/pcworld/20090122/tc_pcworld/formergamesjournalistdeadinapparentmurdersuicide_1

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/cbc/090110/canada/canada_montreal_saguenay_family_13

Have people become so worried about competing with the guy next door, unable to fathom seeking assistance from the government or wherever that they not only kill their innocent children, but themselves?

Your thought?

whats the best website in the U.S, that i can use to find somone?

there was a girl that i dated 10 years ago, and i recently learned she was sick with cancer, and i spoken to her last year, but then i lost track of her, and would like to get in touch, but there are no freinds and relatives returning my calls, im looking for her address, what is the best website where i could at least find out if she is still alive?, and get a phone number, is there a free site, i dont have much money

Love western Culture Hate ethnic Culture?

I am from muslim Back ground but born brought up here my parents are liberal and very easy going they love the free western culture themselves, but that does not mean we drink alcohol or anything.
I am talking about music, dress, television programs, friends etc,

I have other muslim girls in our school who say that I should attach myself with my ethnic culture. i.e: wear headscarf (totally disagree with that)
listen to their cultural music and way of dress (why should i)

I don’t understand their way of life and culture if i love this way of life and culture, within my own limits i.e. i do not go around sleeping with others, that can happen in any culture nothing to do with western culture.

I want to know are there any other muslim people out there who loves western free, liberal, un-oppressive way of life, and are into this cultures music, clothes etc.

here you do not have to worry oh my arms, hair, legs are showing there that is continuous tension, and if seen accused of trying to attract attention for adultery. therefore women are uncomfortable to participate in sports activities such as swimming, etc,

here you are free to stand sit, walk with other men, there you are treated like aliens separate lanes, sections on buses, sitting places, come on you get lost and separated from your male relatives absolutely pathetic.

still all these does not stop men from looking at you here men subdue their eyes, there the men gawp at the women even though they are in their heavy clothes as if they are piercing there eyes to look underneath them, very disrespectful.

I am not talking about rude and bad stuff, that is in every society and country the only difference is here it is open, there it is behind close doors and are very hypocritical i.e no it does not happen in our society or culture (it does worse, oppress women through long heavy clothes, womans rights are not recognized to that of men’s, honor killing etc.)

here it is up to you what you choose it is between you and God not people to start taking out uncivilized, unfair punishment and here women’s freedom is appreciated not disapproved of. and i am not talking about sexual freedom, i am talking about many, many general libeties, driving, jobs, divorce, allimony, widow benefit, right to choose who you marry, property, business ownership freedom.

In muslim countries they say yes we do have these rights for women. but come on their culture oppresses those rights severely with help of other family members and government.

I say those countries and their culture are hypocrites they make do not like western culture, yet wish they all lived here, and put on a facade that their way of life is the ideal way.
Not to mention that always have to be accompanying with male relation when going out doors to make sure her ’honor’ is not violated by herself or from others and to prevent people from slandering against her character, what a miserable way of life, here you can go out where you want and people do not go around harassing alone women or maliciously slander against her character.

Trying to start a SIDS outreach center…?

So here’s my idea:
I am currently in college persuing a degree in childcare development. I hope to expand upon that degree and eventually persue a phd in child education or psychology.
But what I would really like to do is start an outreach center in my community for all families affected by SIDS. The program would focus on everything from SIDS prevention education (Back to Sleep, creating a safe enviroment, prenatal care, help with quitting smoking etc.) to grief counseling and support groups for families, and specialized counseling for siblings who have lost a brother or sister to SIDS. The program would also offer services for relatives of the family who have lost babies to SIDS to better enable communication and healing among family members (and friends).
I’ve got so many ideas and I definitely want to start the planning process while I’m in school. Do you think this sounds like a resource people would use? Good idea, bad idea? Just looking for general opinions.
*This center would also offer full services for any family who has lost a child for whatever reason. I just don’t feel that there are truly adequate resources available in many places that are free.

Inheritance and property taxes- forced inheritance?

In 2007 my Husband’s Grandfather died. No will. Survived by two daughters. One in my Mother in law.

The two daughters do not get along well, and have fought for years.
After the death, my mother in law gave her sister paperwork so that she could go to probate court and get the property in her name- although they would receive it 50/50, she told the sister- go ahead and take it so we can keep it in the family. There was already taxes due on the property. She thought the sister was now the owner.

Right now, the house needs to be demolished- 100% unlivable, and more taxes due. It’s a money pit, but the lot is huge, and would be a good place to rebuild. It might be worth it to someone if all they had to do was pay court costs, lawyers fees and back taxes to get the lot for “free” past that.

Relatives come to her to say a city inspector came to look at the house. (they live next to it)

The city says either sign it over, or pay the taxes and keep it.

My father in law says he was told by the city that they MUST pay the back taxes on the property, they have no choice in the matter.

I said: don’t accept the property. Don’t accept the inheritance, and then you won’t be liable. The property is lost to the family, but you won’t be in debt either.

He said that if they keep or sign it over- they have to pay the taxes either way. My mother in law is all upset because it’s 3,000-4,000 in taxes she thinks she will be forced to pay unless someone in the family steps up and takes control of the property.

I told my father in law there is no way that someone can FORCE you to inherit something.

If that was the case, I would make sure I got a property, get loads of back taxes before I die and bequeath it to my worst enemy. It makes no sense whatsoever.

He keeps insisting they will be forced to pay these taxes on this property whether they keep it or not, that it’s city law.

Could this be possible?
Oh- and since she doesn’t get on with her sister, she doesn’t think she can give the property to anyone because the sister won’t sign over her share just to be difficult. (She doesn’t even have a current phone number)